How Your Life Is Trying To Heal You, Part 3

Is enlightenment stalking you from behind?

We’re all human and we all carry our baggage.  But what if that baggage was acting out, shaping our thoughts, feelings and health, trying to resurface so we can see it, address it, be unburdened by it, be happier, healthier and more present?

Well, that is exactly what is happening.  Just as an old tree sheds limbs it grew in youth that it just can’t carry any further, so too do we.

Here’s Part 3 of a 3-part series on our hidden and not-so-hidden wounds.

Part 1 laid the foundation of why and how we ‘bury our stuff’ and ‘pack our baggage’: When life is too much we block it, and blocks = baggage.

Part 2 hit on how our blocks shape who we are.  Did you relate to any of these common themes?  Go back and see what resonates with you.

Today: Your blocks are constantly trying to resurface for healing!  Every struggle in your life has a component that is trying to get your attention and shower you with blessings!

 

Your Blocks Are

Constantly Resurfacing For Healing

My wise wife says there’s a difference between pain and suffering.  Pain is pain, its a part of life, it happens naturally, no gettin’ around it.  Suffering is pain we’ve created that didn’t have to happen.  Like when things are bad but we make them worse by playing the victim, blaming others, or not doing what we can to take responsibility for our circumstances or care for ourselves.

Its different for kids, right?  How many times a day does a toddler get super-happy, cry tears, get angry, and then cuddly and snuggly?  Kids are more flexible than we are, but they don’t have access to the same inner resources as an adult who must be responsible for themselves.

The energy we have as kids continues in young-adulthood and compensates for any imbalances and blocks we’ve carried through from childhood.  As we age though, our bodies show the strain, and lead to the litany of human sufferings.  That upright posture may become a stiff and easily injured back.  All that trying to control things may lead to hypertension or a heart attack.  That overeating may lead to diabetes.  All of them diminish our relationships and happiness.

This is where you want to have Part 1 and Part 2 in mind, ’cause we’re going to build on them.

Blocks are derived from experiences we were unable to handle that became parts of our fields, our bodies, and our personalities.  Parts of the behavior of your field, body, and personality have been created to protect yourself from these blocks.

Protecting yourself won’t work forever.  What you resist persists.  Pushing against something just puts energy into it.  Eventually your weak spot will be triggered and present itself to you to be seen and healed.

When you become aware of what’s going on, every calamity becomes an opportunity, every pain becomes a chance to grow smarter and wiser, and every limitation becomes a strength.  The truth is…

 

Your Baggage = Your Secret Superpower

I kid you not.  Want to know what yours is and how to begin to unlock it?

The following dynamics color everything my clients come to me to address.  How and when these play out are complex and utterly unique to each person.

Here’s what people often need to do to heal, and the profound gifts they unlock:

Be real.

Do you feel like you or others around you always need to be perfect?  Your superpower is your enormous capacity to tap into reality and make things happen!  Sound lackluster?  You lead the world, and society is shaped by your every choice.  As you start to heal you’ll do it more consciously, with a powerful inner compass.  Find your feelings and put your natural passion and consistency in service of the real you.

Express yourself.

Do you need to reclaim your body, your time, your life as your own?  Your secret superpower is how much you have to give!  As you start to heal you’ll release the tension of holding it all in and let your bubbling creativity and caring shine in whatever way you choose.

Surrender.

This is a tough one, but do you ever find yourself lying or being manipulative in order to win?  Your secret superpower is your honesty, integrity and heroism.  It’s one of life’s oxymorons.  You are the champion of causes.   As you start to heal you’ll deflate puffed up parts of yourself, let go of all that control and come hang out with the rest of us.  We could use your leadership, your vision, and your great big, courageous heart.

Fill yourself up and give.

Do you hunger for love and affection?  Your secret superpower is your ability to connect with others and give.  It might seem like a little thing, but its enough and the world needs it.  As you start to heal you’ll stop grabbing for more and notice all that you are getting already.  Find your fulfillment sharing the things you love with others.

Love yourself and connect.

Is your surreal life out to get you?  Is the world an unsafe mess?  Your secret superpower is your humanness and insight.  As you start to heal you’ll release the hidden terror rage you’ve felt toward the world.  Life’s not all sunshine and fluffy pillows, but its not razor blades and Armageddon either.  As messy as it is, it can be an amazing journey.  Come thaw the ice inside you and joined in.

When we begin to heal suddenly everywhere we have trouble, get stuck, fail, and suffer also points right at where we are going to become most awesome, expert and insightful.

In conclusion, before something turns to illness or calamity, it usually starts poking its head up.   By the time things fall apart, something is really trying to get you to pay attention.  As soon as you notice, something miraculous begins to shift.  This is the heart of healing.

And the rabbit hole goes a long way down.

If you want to get into this further for yourself, contact me for a session.  I’m always honored to support you with the notes I play and the hands I lay.  Thank you for having me along on your journey!

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Why Love Hurts

Why is love SO compelling and yet often SO painful?!  Why is it that something as wonderful as LOVE can also bring us to our knees?  Falling into love, falling out of love, hurting or being hurt by the people we love, or longing for love – what is it that can hurt so much?  Over the next two weekly healing updates we’re going to get a grasp on a new insight into these questions.  We’re going to up our love IQ.

The first thing you have to do is learn.

A great place to start is with The Beatles.  Their story illuminates a couple of key conditions important to this week’s quest.  Part of what made The Beatles such a huge hit early on was that they were distanced from their audience.  To this day you can experience a lot of John, Paul, George and Ringo in pictures, recordings, and movies, but you’re extremely unlikely to meet them as a normal person.  Part of what made them so famous was that at the time there was a tide of people who just wanted to gush love and adoration.  These fans – mostly young women – could idealize, idolize and fantasize, literally ‘to their hearts content.’   There was no threat of rejection, no danger of ever meeting and being disappointed by the objects of their affection, only the profound hope in their hearts that love could be so perfect.  This is the first condition I want to point out: fans wanted to experience a perfect love they innately knew was possible.

Where did this tide of love the Fab Four tapped into come from?  Why weren’t listeners so satisfied with the love in their own homes and communities that these party animals with instruments had little impact?  Well that’s just it, something was lacking.  A significant number of people were ready to explode.  One clue comes from how they grow up.  Psychologists notice that the bonds created during childhood – the love bonds of early childhood especially – shape not just how we love the people that raise us but how we experience love for the rest of our lives.  This early programming becomes tacit, like sunglasses we forget we’re wearing.  The more love, the thinner the glass, and vice versa.  It seems as though when the Beatles first hit it big in North America there were some thick shades ready to come off, like a reservoir of love dammed up and waiting for someone to release the gates.

THIS is why love hurts: because our hearts get dammed up or blocked.  We feel both the pain of the block or the longing for an unblocked state where we can experience love more easily and effortlessly.  Such blocks are exceedingly normal.  I work with almost all of my clients in every session to clear stagnant blocks big and small.  Their existence is involved in every illness and injury, and clearing them is one of the first things I learned in my energy healing training.

You need love to be healthy and happy, and without it your health and happiness falter.  Why would love ever be stymied?  Surely it should be flowing as freely as the Beatles’ fans hoped.  Well, as I established in the previous two updates, love hasn’t been a top priority in our culture, but it’s on its way up.  This rise is inevitable because just as the Beatlemaniacs pointed out, love is primal and innate.  It’s like we’re born with a crayon box, and over time learn to color only with some of the colors.  Inevitably, however, we will come in contact with someone or something ‘outside the box’.  It can be a neighbor, a lover, a song, a work of art, an incident, an asshole in traffic, etc., that reminds us of one or more of the ‘other’ colors.  For instance, if you’re painstakingly nice you may be reminded of your anger, or if you are stoic and cool you may be reminded of your vulnerability.  These experiences are alternately painfully uncomfortable and compellingly attractive.  What were the kids who came of age in 1960’s America responding to in their post-war, Baby Boomer parents?  They were at a point where they could no longer deny the existence of the other colors like love, no matter how hard they tried.  Sooner or later we all have to.

The most difficult thing is, if your heart blocks pain for a long time it gets comfortable that way.  This new comfort zone becomes a lens through which you view everything in your world.  We develop intricate personal habits to help us avoid opening up to the pain we hold in our hearts.  Entire families will skate around hidden pain.  These habits become so ingrained that in most cases they become who we think we are.  This makes it harder to love and be loved, to feel, find and recognize love.  We may go to great lengths to prove ourselves worthy of the love we want but don’t feel.  The fear of getting hurt again can be so great that we will turn away from our hearts to feel as little love as possible.  We’ll prefer it.  One especially glaring tragedy stands out here: the things that hurt us are usually part of our history and no longer happening right now – especially in this very moment – yet we continue to protect ourselves.  When the energy in your heart is blocked for long enough it starts to show up in your body as heart related illness and disease.  Anything from simple tightness in the chest all the way to heart attacks – yes, heart attacks, the leading cause of death in the United States – are rooted blocked heart energy.

This is what’s happening when love hurts:  when we open our hearts to others in our relationships, everything – and I mean everything – that has been dammed up has a chance to flow out and be felt.  This can be sad, terrifying, depressing, destructive, and lonely but also liberating, empowering, exhilarating and life-affirming.  The truth is, as humans we’re not able to limit the stuff we don’t like and let loose the stuff we do.  When you tighten down on some of it, you clamp down on all of it.  When you open up the flow again whatever you were blocking will be right there waiting for you.  If you’re still hurting from a past intimate relationship of any kind, it’s going to come up in your next one, of any kind.  Did you have a rough time with your father growing up?  You’re going to have to address it all again as a dad, as a wife, or in your relationship with me.  Did you experience the death of a parent early on?  You can expect to be avoiding that threat of loss in all of your current relationships.  There are as many stories as there are people on earth, many much more and much less dramatic than these.  A large part of my work as an energy healer is working with the roots of these stories so that my clients’ energies can flow in a healthy way again.  This way they don’t have to continue to re-experience old pain in their life-circumstances.

The good news is that love hurts because your amazing heart is always trying to call up a great pain you couldn’t get past, so you can get past it.  I’ve seen it time and time again.  Your heart is a brilliant, mad genius.  It can be hard to find long buried pain, but the heart is attracted to exactly the people and situations you need to bring up and work out whatever baggage you’re carrying around until it’s not a burden anymore.  You will address your history over and over until you’re, literally, over it.  Trust your heart and learn to hear what it’s saying.  Love is a higher organizing principle than your thinking mind.  The mind can only observe love, but never control it, and all attempts to do so will be met with frustration and a lessening of love itself, in other words, more pain.  In the long run, we all have to grow in love.

Therefore the second thing you can do is heal.

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In next week’s email I’ll address your personal healing process and go in deep to give you some tools, ideas and practices you can use to open up to, unblock and enjoy the love in your life.

This post is from a weekly healing update email, aka Heal Schpeel, that Lincoln sent out on  11/29/2010.  Join the healing list now to hear about healing specials and promotions, email link@lincolncrockett.com, subject: Add to Healing List.  Thank you.

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