How Your Life Is Trying To Heal You, Part 3

Is enlightenment stalking you from behind?

We’re all human and we all carry our baggage.  But what if that baggage was acting out, shaping our thoughts, feelings and health, trying to resurface so we can see it, address it, be unburdened by it, be happier, healthier and more present?

Well, that is exactly what is happening.  Just as an old tree sheds limbs it grew in youth that it just can’t carry any further, so too do we.

Here’s Part 3 of a 3-part series on our hidden and not-so-hidden wounds.

Part 1 laid the foundation of why and how we ‘bury our stuff’ and ‘pack our baggage’: When life is too much we block it, and blocks = baggage.

Part 2 hit on how our blocks shape who we are.  Did you relate to any of these common themes?  Go back and see what resonates with you.

Today: Your blocks are constantly trying to resurface for healing!  Every struggle in your life has a component that is trying to get your attention and shower you with blessings!


Your Blocks Are

Constantly Resurfacing For Healing

My wise wife says there’s a difference between pain and suffering.  Pain is pain, its a part of life, it happens naturally, no gettin’ around it.  Suffering is pain we’ve created that didn’t have to happen.  Like when things are bad but we make them worse by playing the victim, blaming others, or not doing what we can to take responsibility for our circumstances or care for ourselves.

Its different for kids, right?  How many times a day does a toddler get super-happy, cry tears, get angry, and then cuddly and snuggly?  Kids are more flexible than we are, but they don’t have access to the same inner resources as an adult who must be responsible for themselves.

The energy we have as kids continues in young-adulthood and compensates for any imbalances and blocks we’ve carried through from childhood.  As we age though, our bodies show the strain, and lead to the litany of human sufferings.  That upright posture may become a stiff and easily injured back.  All that trying to control things may lead to hypertension or a heart attack.  That overeating may lead to diabetes.  All of them diminish our relationships and happiness.

This is where you want to have Part 1 and Part 2 in mind, ’cause we’re going to build on them.

Blocks are derived from experiences we were unable to handle that became parts of our fields, our bodies, and our personalities.  Parts of the behavior of your field, body, and personality have been created to protect yourself from these blocks.

Protecting yourself won’t work forever.  What you resist persists.  Pushing against something just puts energy into it.  Eventually your weak spot will be triggered and present itself to you to be seen and healed.

When you become aware of what’s going on, every calamity becomes an opportunity, every pain becomes a chance to grow smarter and wiser, and every limitation becomes a strength.  The truth is…


Your Baggage = Your Secret Superpower

I kid you not.  Want to know what yours is and how to begin to unlock it?

The following dynamics color everything my clients come to me to address.  How and when these play out are complex and utterly unique to each person.

Here’s what people often need to do to heal, and the profound gifts they unlock:

Be real.

Do you feel like you or others around you always need to be perfect?  Your superpower is your enormous capacity to tap into reality and make things happen!  Sound lackluster?  You lead the world, and society is shaped by your every choice.  As you start to heal you’ll do it more consciously, with a powerful inner compass.  Find your feelings and put your natural passion and consistency in service of the real you.

Express yourself.

Do you need to reclaim your body, your time, your life as your own?  Your secret superpower is how much you have to give!  As you start to heal you’ll release the tension of holding it all in and let your bubbling creativity and caring shine in whatever way you choose.


This is a tough one, but do you ever find yourself lying or being manipulative in order to win?  Your secret superpower is your honesty, integrity and heroism.  It’s one of life’s oxymorons.  You are the champion of causes.   As you start to heal you’ll deflate puffed up parts of yourself, let go of all that control and come hang out with the rest of us.  We could use your leadership, your vision, and your great big, courageous heart.

Fill yourself up and give.

Do you hunger for love and affection?  Your secret superpower is your ability to connect with others and give.  It might seem like a little thing, but its enough and the world needs it.  As you start to heal you’ll stop grabbing for more and notice all that you are getting already.  Find your fulfillment sharing the things you love with others.

Love yourself and connect.

Is your surreal life out to get you?  Is the world an unsafe mess?  Your secret superpower is your humanness and insight.  As you start to heal you’ll release the hidden terror rage you’ve felt toward the world.  Life’s not all sunshine and fluffy pillows, but its not razor blades and Armageddon either.  As messy as it is, it can be an amazing journey.  Come thaw the ice inside you and joined in.

When we begin to heal suddenly everywhere we have trouble, get stuck, fail, and suffer also points right at where we are going to become most awesome, expert and insightful.

In conclusion, before something turns to illness or calamity, it usually starts poking its head up.   By the time things fall apart, something is really trying to get you to pay attention.  As soon as you notice, something miraculous begins to shift.  This is the heart of healing.

And the rabbit hole goes a long way down.

If you want to get into this further for yourself, contact me for a session.  I’m always honored to support you with the notes I play and the hands I lay.  Thank you for having me along on your journey!

Music is where Reason meets Love

The highest function of reason is to reason itself out of a job.  Nowhere can you experience this as clearly as through music.

Reason is a function of the mind.  It is most active when we get away from our feelings about things and just deal with information.  It is neither sympathetic nor unsympathetic, just generally intelligent and rational.  Reason is the mind at its finest.

Yet the mind is like the captain of a ship, pouring over charts and logs, always plotting.  Alas, it miss-takes its genuine ability to observe and describe and direct for having control over what it sees.  Often all we can do on our journey is batten the hatches when there’s a storm, or catch some rays on good sunny days.  The mind is in fact but a passenger.  And moreover, in truth, there is no boat.

A co-worker once asked me, “What’s your favorite thing in the whole world?”  It took me a year to come up with my answer: A Song That Moves.  Moves my heart, makes me want to dance, and moves me even more deeply.  In the fantastic documentary Bluegrass Journey, songwriter Tim O’Brien comments something like, “Music gives people the chance to take some time and think about the really important things in life.”  When your mind is quiet for a while, suddenly, gradually, you may notice feeling lighter, easier.  Perhaps you can feel the whisper that somehow all’s right with the world.  Can our linear minds & brains help us get to this ephemeral, etherial place?

Yes.  My two favorite ways are through listening to and playing music, and giving and receiving energy work.

In 2003 I graduated from the four-year program at the Wakepoint School of Energy Healing (  Words often fail to capture what I learned there.  I used to tell people that in some ways it was as if I had believed with utter certainty that aliens didn’t exist, was then abducted, and now had to come to terms with a dizzying new reality.

I uncovered what it seems like every romantic knows, what every child knows, every mystic and shaman, passionate scientists at the top of their game, snowboarders on the perfect run, artists and musicians at the height of their craft, et al knows: there is something unseen and hard to name that is very real and nearly incomprehensible that is with us all the time, that can be leaned on and counted on.  Among its hallmarks are a feeling of compassionate connection to all things, a reduction of stress, a sense of well-being and freedom, a harmony and synchronicity in the events in our lives.

People like myself who have this experience come to hold the conviction that everything that exists must be and is made of the energy of Love itself.  The best that the mind can do to support this, for it is way beyond the mind to coordinate the machinations off everything in existence.  Only by opening and emptying – becoming a passenger on the boat – can we tap into and experience the typically unseen world of energy.

Music embodies this experience.  How did Miles Davis’ legendary ‘Rhythm Section’ know to change tempos so wildly and spontaneously?  How did the Beatles captivate their frenzied audiences?  How does a soloist know how to let the notes of a perfect spontaneous solo fly so freely?  Some call it talent, some call it practice, others call it mystical, I call it natural.  When a musician, like a child at play, relaxes their mind they suspend judgments, comparisons, criticism, and other attempts to control or ‘make perfect’ what they’re doing.   In this state of acceptance they are able to rest more comfortably in something else that is larger and more capable.  I identify that boat as our heart or our soul, and the water it floats in as Love.

Music is an art form that comes from both our heads and our hearts.  Healthy hearts are characterized by passion, compassion, warmth, love, understanding of ourselves and others, and caring in our relationships.  Good music can be reasoned down into all of its component parts – instruments, notes, rhythms, melody, etc – but in the end the magical sum of its parts results in wonderment.  It has a power like the arch of a solar flare – both fleeting and awesome – that makes it so enduring.  Like love.

When music comes from the heart the mind takes a backseat.  Like all art, it is created from a place in us that is hard to explain.  Some might say it doesn’t come from within us at all, but through us.  As a musician I have to let go of understanding, controlling and directing what I’m doing to do it well.  Despite all its hard work, my mind eventually – inevitably – works itself out of a job.   This is where reason meets love.  The captain has seen that is just a passenger on the boat.

And in truth, there is no boat.  But that, perhaps, is another story.

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