How Your Life Is Trying To Heal You, Part 3

Is enlightenment stalking you from behind?

We’re all human and we all carry our baggage.  But what if that baggage was acting out, shaping our thoughts, feelings and health, trying to resurface so we can see it, address it, be unburdened by it, be happier, healthier and more present?

Well, that is exactly what is happening.  Just as an old tree sheds limbs it grew in youth that it just can’t carry any further, so too do we.

Here’s Part 3 of a 3-part series on our hidden and not-so-hidden wounds.

Part 1 laid the foundation of why and how we ‘bury our stuff’ and ‘pack our baggage’: When life is too much we block it, and blocks = baggage.

Part 2 hit on how our blocks shape who we are.  Did you relate to any of these common themes?  Go back and see what resonates with you.

Today: Your blocks are constantly trying to resurface for healing!  Every struggle in your life has a component that is trying to get your attention and shower you with blessings!

 

Your Blocks Are

Constantly Resurfacing For Healing

My wise wife says there’s a difference between pain and suffering.  Pain is pain, its a part of life, it happens naturally, no gettin’ around it.  Suffering is pain we’ve created that didn’t have to happen.  Like when things are bad but we make them worse by playing the victim, blaming others, or not doing what we can to take responsibility for our circumstances or care for ourselves.

Its different for kids, right?  How many times a day does a toddler get super-happy, cry tears, get angry, and then cuddly and snuggly?  Kids are more flexible than we are, but they don’t have access to the same inner resources as an adult who must be responsible for themselves.

The energy we have as kids continues in young-adulthood and compensates for any imbalances and blocks we’ve carried through from childhood.  As we age though, our bodies show the strain, and lead to the litany of human sufferings.  That upright posture may become a stiff and easily injured back.  All that trying to control things may lead to hypertension or a heart attack.  That overeating may lead to diabetes.  All of them diminish our relationships and happiness.

This is where you want to have Part 1 and Part 2 in mind, ’cause we’re going to build on them.

Blocks are derived from experiences we were unable to handle that became parts of our fields, our bodies, and our personalities.  Parts of the behavior of your field, body, and personality have been created to protect yourself from these blocks.

Protecting yourself won’t work forever.  What you resist persists.  Pushing against something just puts energy into it.  Eventually your weak spot will be triggered and present itself to you to be seen and healed.

When you become aware of what’s going on, every calamity becomes an opportunity, every pain becomes a chance to grow smarter and wiser, and every limitation becomes a strength.  The truth is…

 

Your Baggage = Your Secret Superpower

I kid you not.  Want to know what yours is and how to begin to unlock it?

The following dynamics color everything my clients come to me to address.  How and when these play out are complex and utterly unique to each person.

Here’s what people often need to do to heal, and the profound gifts they unlock:

Be real.

Do you feel like you or others around you always need to be perfect?  Your superpower is your enormous capacity to tap into reality and make things happen!  Sound lackluster?  You lead the world, and society is shaped by your every choice.  As you start to heal you’ll do it more consciously, with a powerful inner compass.  Find your feelings and put your natural passion and consistency in service of the real you.

Express yourself.

Do you need to reclaim your body, your time, your life as your own?  Your secret superpower is how much you have to give!  As you start to heal you’ll release the tension of holding it all in and let your bubbling creativity and caring shine in whatever way you choose.

Surrender.

This is a tough one, but do you ever find yourself lying or being manipulative in order to win?  Your secret superpower is your honesty, integrity and heroism.  It’s one of life’s oxymorons.  You are the champion of causes.   As you start to heal you’ll deflate puffed up parts of yourself, let go of all that control and come hang out with the rest of us.  We could use your leadership, your vision, and your great big, courageous heart.

Fill yourself up and give.

Do you hunger for love and affection?  Your secret superpower is your ability to connect with others and give.  It might seem like a little thing, but its enough and the world needs it.  As you start to heal you’ll stop grabbing for more and notice all that you are getting already.  Find your fulfillment sharing the things you love with others.

Love yourself and connect.

Is your surreal life out to get you?  Is the world an unsafe mess?  Your secret superpower is your humanness and insight.  As you start to heal you’ll release the hidden terror rage you’ve felt toward the world.  Life’s not all sunshine and fluffy pillows, but its not razor blades and Armageddon either.  As messy as it is, it can be an amazing journey.  Come thaw the ice inside you and joined in.

When we begin to heal suddenly everywhere we have trouble, get stuck, fail, and suffer also points right at where we are going to become most awesome, expert and insightful.

In conclusion, before something turns to illness or calamity, it usually starts poking its head up.   By the time things fall apart, something is really trying to get you to pay attention.  As soon as you notice, something miraculous begins to shift.  This is the heart of healing.

And the rabbit hole goes a long way down.

If you want to get into this further for yourself, contact me for a session.  I’m always honored to support you with the notes I play and the hands I lay.  Thank you for having me along on your journey!

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How Your Life Is Trying To Heal You, Part 2

Let’s continue with Part 2 of a 3-part series on the upside of our hidden and perhaps not-so-hidden wounds.  

In Part 1 of How Your Life is Trying to Heal You I told you essentially, baggage = blocked energy. These same blocks and baggage effect our bodies, thoughts and feelings, and even shape who we are.

 How Baggage Shapes The Bearer

Imagine a baseball glove, or an oven mitt.  Both are perfectly made to take the hit, or take the heat.  So are you.  You are the sum total of the journey to become who you are right this second.  Not one moment has been left out.  If everything’s been peachy then congratulations, you’re happy, well-adjusted and incredibly rare.

If, on the other hand, you’re like most people, you have a block here, some baggage there.  Nobody’s perfect, and there’s something perfect in that.  The day to day stuff tends to slough off after some exercise, a shower and time with good friends or family.

Its the more persistent stuff that we’re here to address in this message and in life.  The deeper, older stuff.  The longer you’ve carried a block, the less you notice.  Its a part of you.  In fact, you might not be you without it.

Let’s begin with five of the most common colors we carry in our palette of deep blocks:

First example: Think back a ways.  Were you taught to sit still and listen?  To line up and wait?  Sometimes these are valuable lessons that help us get along better with others.

Other times we may learn that what really matters is how we act on the surface, not what we truly feel or think.  In dangerous or abusive situations a lot more may depend on toeing the line.

We may learn we have to be perfect.  People who went through this are almost always “fine” when asked. These seemingly balanced and straight-backed people can carry out a task no matter how they feel about it, as long as its the right thing to do.

Really they don’t feel much about it, or anything, at all.  Essentially, they don’t know who they truly are and may be envious of or scornful toward others who do.  The good news is they are highly able to be successful in the world.

Second example: Pay attention to your body.  It is amazing, and more than anything else it’s yours.  You are responsible for taking care of it and anything it does.  Plus you can run, play, draw, sing, dance and enjoy the heck out of it.

But if our bodies and energies are not respected as our own, if we are dominated by those who are supposed to protect us, or shamed too much for what our bodies do, we learn a different lesson.

We may learn to be ashamed of a body and self that are not our own.  Its normal for folks who went through this to feel that anything that smells like a boundary – even their own self-control – feels bad.  Its a tense position to maintain.

They may overeat and gain unhealthy weight.  They may wait for a slight to burst out and reclaim the power they no longer remember they already have.  If this is you you’re not alone.  This is very common in the United States and Australia.

Third example: Ask yourself if you were ever “a little superhero” or “mommy’s perfect angel”?  Its normal for parents, teachers and others to say stuff like this, no big whoop.

The baggage only gets packed if you really can’t keep up with the expectations placed on you and fall hard.  In intense cases, people you count on may seduce you to get what they want, and abuse you if they don’t get it.

We may learn to lie to and manipulate a world we mistrust.  We’re going to puff up as big as we can to uphold unbearable expectations.  Deep down we feel essentially worthless, cuz we’re living a lie.  Each new lie makes this worse, and we learn to control others around us to protect ourselves.

Feeling supported is vital in our unstable state.  If you’re not with us, you’re against us.  Our friends are angels, our enemies are pure evil.  Power is key, winning is the most important thing, and we’re really good in a fight.  You are fortunate if we’re on your side, cuz if we’re not, you’re f’d.

Fourth example: Imagine a child who’s going hungry.  You can see their wide eyes, pleading for food.  Its all about feeling fulfilled.  It doesn’t take much to have enough.

But if for any reason there’s not enough of the food, affection, attention or love you need, you’ll pack your bags full of hunger and heartache.

We may learn that there is never enough for us, and we aren’t enough either.  When your belly or heart is left wanting too often you learn that it is you that is the inadequate, half-empty cup.

Better to fill yourself from the world around you.  Using sex to get attention is one classic ploy, or droning on and on and boring others.  But good feeling never last, cuz you’re more comfortable empty and longing anyway!  Full, what’s that?  But you sure might make a great entertainer.

Last example: Go back to the moment it all began.  If you were safe, held and loved at birth then you’re not carrying this last bag.  This block is for those of us who came in rough, or were met with enough hostility that…

We may learn that life is dangerous and the world hates us.  The only safe place to be now is gone.  These are the slender wisps who find a spiritual reality or daydream more compelling than flesh and bone.  Look in their eyes and this notoriously flaky and disengaged person isn’t quite looking back.

If this is you, fear and anxiety are too easy to come by, aren’t they.  Conflict may cause you to practically leave your body, if you haven’t had an out-of-body experience already.  But when you touch the world with your unique insights, lookout!

Are you painting with any of these colors?  In my experience we all have one or more.  Its heartbreaking to watch happen, and the cycles repeat every day.

Believe it or not, t here is a silver lining and its coming in Part 3: the miraculous nature of how our baggage is constantly resurfacing and showering us with chances to embrace it, be free of it, and be our most whole, healed, beautiful selves.  You might even say we’ve got secret superpowers.

Heal and Learn

If you want to go further and use energy healing to start unpacking your own baggage, contact me for a healing session and let’s begin!

Your health isn’t just about your body and organs.  Everything happens in your field.  The issues above are intertwined with the issues people come to me to address.  I’ll let you know more in upcoming articles or receive them by email by signing up for The Heal Schpeal.

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How Your Life Is Trying To Heal You, Part 1

We’re all human and we all carry baggage.  Try as we might, there’s only so perfect we can get!

I know, I know, its not your fault.  You were born this way.  You have to be true to yourself.

Your troubles came out of nowhere.  No matter how much time goes by, you still get a feeling in your body when you drive by where the incident happened.

And maybe you agree with my friend Joseph Estevez, who told me, “After 30 you can’t blame your parents.”

You’re all right.  And you’re alright.

I want to help you out with some “21st Century Human Skills”.  Today begins Part 1 of a 3-part series on our hidden and perhaps not-so-hidden wounds.  They’re real, they’re visible in your energy field, and they matter.

Right now we’re going to lay the foundation with why and how we ‘bury our stuff’ and ‘pack our baggage’.  Eventually we’ll get to the miraculous nature of how our baggage is constantly resurfacing and showering us with healing opportunities!

How and Why

We Bury Our Baggage

Ideally, when we suffer, we take the time to feel it, do what we can to change our situation, and cry away the rest or just let it go.  But when we can’t – we’re too busy, the pain is too much or we’re too young or don’t have the support we need to make it through – we have to stuff it.  Be macho.  Be tough.  Set it aside.  Block it.

This can be good when your kids really need you.  This is good if you’re in danger and just have to get to safety before you can let go.  This is good if you’re too young and the pain is so much that it might tear you apart.

This is bad if you never get back to it.  If it stays stuck.  If you forget.  If you get used to the pain.  If you come to like the pain.  If you prefer its comfort to the discomfort of being free of it.  These things happen.

Baggage = Blocks

When we block our feelings it shows up in our energy field.  This is part of why I have a job.  I’m sensitive and I pick up on unspoken stuff.  So do most sensitive people.  I also have the capacity and skills to address it more directly in a healing session.  If you can call intuitively tapping in to someone’s field from hundreds – or even thousands – of miles away ‘direct’!

You are incredibly complex, and the further down the rabbit hole I go the harder it is to explain.  Different wounds effect different aspects of ourselves differently. Here’s the skinny:

When we block our physical energies we may feel weak in our bones, muscles, tendons and tissues.  Our body may get stiff and our muscles hard.

When we block our feelings it looks to my mind’s eye like a dull fog.  Too much of this and we feel depressed.  We are literally depressing our feelings so they can’t flow naturally from one to the next.  Or we may feel nothing.  People who drink a lot often have this look to me.  When we obsess over things it is our minds working hard to block our feelings.  We may become very educated and successful before this strategy begins to fail us.

When we block our thoughts we cannot think clearly, may feel confused, or have difficulty understanding, learning, or tapping into our intuition.  Our mind may cycle through the same thoughts over and over, trying to deal with daily life in a way that may or may not be working well for us.

When we block our hearts it forms a sticky tar of energy.  So does smoking a lot of pot.  If we block the inevitable pain that is a part of all relationships, we block our love.  We get hard.  We care less.  We may think we don’t care at all.  Beware people who are too cool, because they aren’t warm.

When we block our connection to truth, insight, inspiration, joy, and the divine, we cannot find our place in the world.  Meaning, happiness, abiding satisfaction and peace are hard to come by.

Everyone has an excellent reason for blocking what they block.  If you wore their shoes you might have done the exact same thing.

By the time people come to me for the first time, especially if they’ve never had energy work before, whatever they’ve been doing isn’t working.  Sometimes its something simple, and often its something complex.  We peel it back, layer by layer, until we find the root.  With this process comes understanding.  With this process comes clarity.  And compassion, for yourself and others.  And healing.

And the whole world becomes a better place, all because you were blocked.

All of this begs some background into the energy work I do, but I’m going to save it for down the line.  I’ve got to have something to write about after I finish this series in March!  Next month’s topic: The simple, beautiful and sometimes heartbreaking ways our blocks and baggage shape who we are.

Final Thoughts

Healing your world,

your country, your community,

and your family begins

with healing yourself.

One thing all of my clients have in common is that in ways big and small you’re all trying to make the world a better place.  Healing and music are part of how I do that.  I’m always honored to support you with the notes I play and the hands I lay.  Thank you for having me along on your journey!

In Health and Healing,

Lincoln Crockett

How to Heal a Hurting Heart

When love flows, life is good.  When our hearts are blocked we feel the pain.  How do we heal a hurting heart?  How do we grow love, experience more love and value the love we have?  Can we increase the love we share with others?  The easy, emphatic answer is YES!  Yes you can, you were born to love!  It’s been a color in your crayon box from the very beginning.  There are as many ways to heal and love as there are people on earth, so I’m going to start with a few heavy hitters that anyone can make use of.  Here they are in no particular order:
 
 1.  Love Yourself              
 
The single most important thing you can to do to heal a hurting heart is love you.  The world around you will reflect this love back every day.  Its that simple.  Look at yourself in the mirror.  Love everything you see.  Look at you, you’re the only person completely like you ever-  Looking just how you look, thinking just what you think and being just you is all you need to be loved.  You’re loveable just for breathing.  It’s that easy!  On the other hand, do you see things you don’t like?  Is any part of you scoffing at such a simple exercise?  Keep reading.
 
2.  Take Responsibility for the Love you already have.
 
If you want more or better love in your life you have to nurture it like a garden.  Grow love by putting time and energy into your own health and happiness and important relationships like your family, friends and community.  Love them!  What do you want to give them?  Write down five easily achievable things right now.  What can you give right now?  Give it!  What does your heart want to do for the people you love?  Write down five things you want to do for them and get going!  Hurting hearts look for love to be given.  Full hearts give.  No control or seduction required.  You don’t have to be perfect, richer or more beautiful.  I promise you, it’ll come back.
 
3.  Move stagnant energy in your heart out.
 
Do you feel a tightening in your chest around certain places, people or events?  That’s your heart closing.  What do you do if your heart’s blocked up?  Your heart is made to lighten its load automatically!  It’s called grief and works through crying.  Tears are a built-in heart cleanser, free of charge.  It’s that easy.  You don’t even have to know ‘why’, that’s the mind’s job and this is love we’re talking about.  Try watching a dramatic movie, read a romantic story, talk to a close friend, write in your diary, take some time alone, give someone you love a five minute hug, listen to a love ballad, anything that touches your heart.  During a session, clients will often cry if we are working on heart cleansing.  The heart knows what it needs. 
 
4.  Find your baggage and unpack it.
 
We’ve all got past pains hanging around and you are never too young or old to unpack them.  Having trouble with an important relationship?  I guarantee its calling up some of your heart’s baggage.  You’re being asked to unpack it and grow.  The sooner you do the less likely you will carry it beyond today, on in your relationships, pass it on to your kids or develop an illness, injury or disease.  The key to whether it’s going to keep hurting or improve hinges on how well you pay attention and develop your consciousness. 
 
Try this: set your intention to unpack or work on some aspect of your life and really mean it.  Now recall a situation you’ve been in recently that love ‘turned sour’ and ask yourself some questions.  Notice how you feel.  Did this bring up anger, sadness, betrayal?  All feelings are valid.  There is no need to judge, just observe.  Have you felt this way before?  Take a moment and consider what situations this event is similar to.  If this is a cycle, what are the details?  What are you trying to learn here?  What are you trying to get over?  If you mean to experience more and better love, stay engaged and feel your feelings.  Then refer to all of the rest of the tips above and below.
 
5.  Learn how to love better.
 
Think of it as an art you were born to do, but you’ve only had very limited training with the tools.  There are a lot of great thinkers, more great builders and workers, and even more fighters already, but very, very few people have reached the same capacity with loving.  Love seems most noticeable for people when they’re with or thinking about the people they love.  Visualize a baby, your child or intimate partner, a beloved pet, a plant that you care for meticulously just for the joy of doing it, a life-long friend or a parent.  Do you swoon for a movie star?  Perfect, just do it!  Let your heart fill up with how wonderful you feel about what you love, then bring that love to places in people in your life that need it, including yourself. At the end of this article I’ve included several helpful books on love skills that have been particularly useful to me.  I recommend them to my clients all the time.  
 
6.  Practice forgiveness.
 
One of the most powerful tools for healing your heart is forgiveness.  If you have been hurt by someone it is important to forgive them.  Don’t wait for them to apologize.  They may never be able to, and meanwhile you’ll still carry around the pain of being a victim.  When you forgive someone else you release yourself from carrying around the pain.  As the old saying goes “bitterness is a poison we drink ourselves to hurt someone else.”  This includes finding and forgiving ourselves for the ‘unforgivable mistakes’ of our past actions.
 
If you’ve been hurt by someone in your life who will continue to actively try and hurt you, you will need to address that.  For people in eminent danger of real harm from loved ones, leave or care for yourself however you need to.  Regardless of how painful what you suffered was, try to forgive and heal yourself.   This is a MUST for old pains you are carrying with you.  You can never protect yourself from something that isn’t happening now, it will just end up blocking what’s good in your life.
 
7.  Be vulnerable.
 
Learn how to have a healthy relationship to vulnerability.  This could also be called “develop personal safety” or “Trust”.  Hearts are tender things and daily life can be rough on them.  Traffic, bills, school, work, news, none of these things cultivate warm fuzzies on their own.  Human life has been relatively rough for a long, long time.  Its only now in North America that there is such consistent excessive abundance – we’ve gone way beyond simple basics – that we’re able to recognize that the toughening required to make it this far is costing us.  The market supports acquisition and entertainment , and instinctively this just isn’t enough.  Think right now of at least one person you can really talk openly with, really let your guard down, who will listen to you and not judge you.  Even if you don’t see them often, keep in touch.  Just by being themselves they will help you remember the finest, softest, strongest parts of you heart.  Love cannot exist without them. 
 
The road to healing your heart can bring up feelings of discomfort, sadness, fear and loneliness but I promise you, you were born ready and able to do it.  The experience can be exhilarating, liberating, empowering, life-affirming and freeing.  This beats winning the lottery and winning a war hands down.  Imagine taking off your sunglasses to find a world gushing love like a bunch of Beatles fans.  The best part is that the love that will satisfy all your aches and pains is a part of you and you are a part of it. Love doesn’t cease because pain is present.  The truth is that love exists within you and around you, always flowing through you.  Ever wonder why “The Force” is such a compelling idea in the Star Wars movies?  It is love.  Don’t wait for Yoda!  Trust that love is real, love is good, grief is healing and that you can heal your heart.  It may take courage but you are strong enough to deal with pain and vulnerability, and you will never regret it.  Be happier and healthier.  Make love and loving a priority in your life.
 
Resources
The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida
Loving What Is by Byron Katie
The New Rules of Marriage by Terrence Real
We by Robert Johnson