How Your Life Is Trying To Heal You, Part 3

Is enlightenment stalking you from behind?

We’re all human and we all carry our baggage.  But what if that baggage was acting out, shaping our thoughts, feelings and health, trying to resurface so we can see it, address it, be unburdened by it, be happier, healthier and more present?

Well, that is exactly what is happening.  Just as an old tree sheds limbs it grew in youth that it just can’t carry any further, so too do we.

Here’s Part 3 of a 3-part series on our hidden and not-so-hidden wounds.

Part 1 laid the foundation of why and how we ‘bury our stuff’ and ‘pack our baggage’: When life is too much we block it, and blocks = baggage.

Part 2 hit on how our blocks shape who we are.  Did you relate to any of these common themes?  Go back and see what resonates with you.

Today: Your blocks are constantly trying to resurface for healing!  Every struggle in your life has a component that is trying to get your attention and shower you with blessings!

 

Your Blocks Are

Constantly Resurfacing For Healing

My wise wife says there’s a difference between pain and suffering.  Pain is pain, its a part of life, it happens naturally, no gettin’ around it.  Suffering is pain we’ve created that didn’t have to happen.  Like when things are bad but we make them worse by playing the victim, blaming others, or not doing what we can to take responsibility for our circumstances or care for ourselves.

Its different for kids, right?  How many times a day does a toddler get super-happy, cry tears, get angry, and then cuddly and snuggly?  Kids are more flexible than we are, but they don’t have access to the same inner resources as an adult who must be responsible for themselves.

The energy we have as kids continues in young-adulthood and compensates for any imbalances and blocks we’ve carried through from childhood.  As we age though, our bodies show the strain, and lead to the litany of human sufferings.  That upright posture may become a stiff and easily injured back.  All that trying to control things may lead to hypertension or a heart attack.  That overeating may lead to diabetes.  All of them diminish our relationships and happiness.

This is where you want to have Part 1 and Part 2 in mind, ’cause we’re going to build on them.

Blocks are derived from experiences we were unable to handle that became parts of our fields, our bodies, and our personalities.  Parts of the behavior of your field, body, and personality have been created to protect yourself from these blocks.

Protecting yourself won’t work forever.  What you resist persists.  Pushing against something just puts energy into it.  Eventually your weak spot will be triggered and present itself to you to be seen and healed.

When you become aware of what’s going on, every calamity becomes an opportunity, every pain becomes a chance to grow smarter and wiser, and every limitation becomes a strength.  The truth is…

 

Your Baggage = Your Secret Superpower

I kid you not.  Want to know what yours is and how to begin to unlock it?

The following dynamics color everything my clients come to me to address.  How and when these play out are complex and utterly unique to each person.

Here’s what people often need to do to heal, and the profound gifts they unlock:

Be real.

Do you feel like you or others around you always need to be perfect?  Your superpower is your enormous capacity to tap into reality and make things happen!  Sound lackluster?  You lead the world, and society is shaped by your every choice.  As you start to heal you’ll do it more consciously, with a powerful inner compass.  Find your feelings and put your natural passion and consistency in service of the real you.

Express yourself.

Do you need to reclaim your body, your time, your life as your own?  Your secret superpower is how much you have to give!  As you start to heal you’ll release the tension of holding it all in and let your bubbling creativity and caring shine in whatever way you choose.

Surrender.

This is a tough one, but do you ever find yourself lying or being manipulative in order to win?  Your secret superpower is your honesty, integrity and heroism.  It’s one of life’s oxymorons.  You are the champion of causes.   As you start to heal you’ll deflate puffed up parts of yourself, let go of all that control and come hang out with the rest of us.  We could use your leadership, your vision, and your great big, courageous heart.

Fill yourself up and give.

Do you hunger for love and affection?  Your secret superpower is your ability to connect with others and give.  It might seem like a little thing, but its enough and the world needs it.  As you start to heal you’ll stop grabbing for more and notice all that you are getting already.  Find your fulfillment sharing the things you love with others.

Love yourself and connect.

Is your surreal life out to get you?  Is the world an unsafe mess?  Your secret superpower is your humanness and insight.  As you start to heal you’ll release the hidden terror rage you’ve felt toward the world.  Life’s not all sunshine and fluffy pillows, but its not razor blades and Armageddon either.  As messy as it is, it can be an amazing journey.  Come thaw the ice inside you and joined in.

When we begin to heal suddenly everywhere we have trouble, get stuck, fail, and suffer also points right at where we are going to become most awesome, expert and insightful.

In conclusion, before something turns to illness or calamity, it usually starts poking its head up.   By the time things fall apart, something is really trying to get you to pay attention.  As soon as you notice, something miraculous begins to shift.  This is the heart of healing.

And the rabbit hole goes a long way down.

If you want to get into this further for yourself, contact me for a session.  I’m always honored to support you with the notes I play and the hands I lay.  Thank you for having me along on your journey!

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5,000 Years – or how the world will save itself!

Mohandas Gandhi kicked the British Empire out of India without firing a shot.  He observed early on that empires always fall no matter how strong they are.  Power and wealth controlled by too few people is as unnatural as a pyramid standing on its head.
 
The nature of healing is the righting of imbalances. 

If you’re tipping you may fall, but at least laying on the ground is more stable.  We are constantly balancing our health through wake and sleep, eating and laboring, hard effort and relaxation, our needs and the needs of others. 
 
Like India vs. England, we are effected by larger balancing acts as well.  Nature plays this game like a dance.  Gravity and electromagnetism keep us safe on our little blue earth as the Milky Way holds itself together around a bright center.  Storms happen when atmospheric water, pressure and temperature rebalance themselves.  Likewise, moodiness, depression and all kinds of emotional distress are storms seeking to right something in our personalities.  All of this happens beautifully whether you pay attention to it or not.
 
For a time after college I lived and worked on a 10,000 acre ranch in the Colorado Rockies.  Everywhere was covered with open grassland and forests of spruce, aspen, Doug Fir and Ponderosa.  There was one, single, lone exception:  The “Columbus tree.”  This gnarled, warped memory of a tree was an ancient juniper, the only one of its kind in the area.  A prominent local claimed to have taken a core sample and judged it to predate Columbus’ arrival in the Americas.  At that time the region had been covered in similar trees.  This balance had changed over time, on its own, naturally.
 
What happens when the change is us?  If you have a second, check out this interactive map at the New York Times.  Across the US right now farmers are waking up to brand new, herbicide-resistant plants in their fields.  One of the major players, called pigweed, grows so fast, tall and sturdy that it snarls massive cotton combines.  There are growing fears that the agricultural system we depend on will be sent into chaos.  How did we grow food before petrochemicals?  Is Round-up the best our agricultural intellect has developed over the past 100 years?  Amazingly, the related article never mentions organic, permaculture, biodynamic or other sustainable farming practices.  One could wonder if there’s something to be learned from this.
 
When Spanish Conquistadores first came to the American west it was not the sagebrush country it is today.  The sage plant has steadily sprung up over the last few hundred years through increased grazing, land use and its own tenacity.  Its a medicinal plant to Native Americans and New Aged spiritualists.  Sage is felt to grow up in areas where the land is troubled.  Seen from this angle, sage is a sign of healing that has shaped and become the land that we know and love today. 
 
In the same way I’m not worried about pigweed, just people.  Fortunately, I’ve found an example where the people involved – no less heavily invested in the outcome than farmers – changed their tack and something almost miraculous happened.  In the United States we’ve been overprescribing antibiotics for infections, particularly a common ear ache known as acute otitis media (AOM).  As a result almost half of such cases today involve drug-resistant forms of a bacteria called Streptococcus pneumonia, or Strep.  I’m sure you’ve heard of Strep because its likely you’ve had it yourself.  Over in the Netherlands drug resistant Strep accounts for only 1% of AOM.  Why the huge difference?  Where did all the drug resistant Strep go?  The answer reads like a page from the Gandhi playbook: when we stopped fighting our enemy died on its own.  You see, when Dutch children ages two and older show up with otitis media, their doctors give them four days to improve on their own.  By and large the kids heal.  It turns out all those drug resistant strains were, well, weak.  They literally balanced out.  Even Penicillin is effective again.  Today, Only 31% of all children in the Netherlands receive antibiotics for AOM.  In the US its over 95% and we use Keflex.  Ouch.
 
Ok, I’m ready to go out on a limb and share some questions that I’ve been asking for years.  Given all of the stories above, what then are ‘invasive species’?  Are they just change happening faster than we’re used to?  Why do we fight against them?  What is it we don’t like about the change we’re a part of?  What if humans are natural?  What then is the mass extinction we are living through?  What if a massive die-off of species on earth, crossed with a veritable human bloom, is just life on earth getting, well, smarter?  Are things just becoming more beautiful and more complex?  Is this some kind of miracle?  Just what do we want to learn from all this?
 
This is my message to you for 2011:  Live from your heart.  Radically.  Don’t wait for the economy or policy makers to catch up.   There is a higher order organizing principle to the universe that you can feel in your sense of wonder and in your connection to the people, places and things you love.  Check every choice against how you feel about it.  Get to know what you really think and feel.  Listen to your intuition and the signals in your gut.  Its time to get smarter and wiser about your life. 

I fill the Heal Schpeal with stories that have changed the way I think and act in the world.  But the real truth is that our world is too complicated to understand with our heads alone.  There is only one way to harmonize with ourselves and everything around us: be present, right here, right now, responding with maximum awareness to our own innermost guidance.  Think you’re unnatural?  Guess again.
 
The constant shifting of people, species, ecosystems, money, cultures – all of our complex relationships between family, friends, nations and the earth itself – could take a long time to balance out into a nice, stable civilization.  But all things considered – and I mean all things – the future is looking up for you, me, everyone and everything on earth.  We’re already on the way.  You’re doing it right now.  It’s inevitable.
 
I give it, oh, say, 5,000 years.
 

Resources

  • Dean Ornish talks about healing on TED.com
  • Spontaneous Healing by Andrew Weil
  • A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle
  • Food, Inc- Movie
  • The Matrix- Movie
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