How Your Life Is Trying To Heal You, Part 3

Is enlightenment stalking you from behind?

We’re all human and we all carry our baggage.  But what if that baggage was acting out, shaping our thoughts, feelings and health, trying to resurface so we can see it, address it, be unburdened by it, be happier, healthier and more present?

Well, that is exactly what is happening.  Just as an old tree sheds limbs it grew in youth that it just can’t carry any further, so too do we.

Here’s Part 3 of a 3-part series on our hidden and not-so-hidden wounds.

Part 1 laid the foundation of why and how we ‘bury our stuff’ and ‘pack our baggage’: When life is too much we block it, and blocks = baggage.

Part 2 hit on how our blocks shape who we are.  Did you relate to any of these common themes?  Go back and see what resonates with you.

Today: Your blocks are constantly trying to resurface for healing!  Every struggle in your life has a component that is trying to get your attention and shower you with blessings!

 

Your Blocks Are

Constantly Resurfacing For Healing

My wise wife says there’s a difference between pain and suffering.  Pain is pain, its a part of life, it happens naturally, no gettin’ around it.  Suffering is pain we’ve created that didn’t have to happen.  Like when things are bad but we make them worse by playing the victim, blaming others, or not doing what we can to take responsibility for our circumstances or care for ourselves.

Its different for kids, right?  How many times a day does a toddler get super-happy, cry tears, get angry, and then cuddly and snuggly?  Kids are more flexible than we are, but they don’t have access to the same inner resources as an adult who must be responsible for themselves.

The energy we have as kids continues in young-adulthood and compensates for any imbalances and blocks we’ve carried through from childhood.  As we age though, our bodies show the strain, and lead to the litany of human sufferings.  That upright posture may become a stiff and easily injured back.  All that trying to control things may lead to hypertension or a heart attack.  That overeating may lead to diabetes.  All of them diminish our relationships and happiness.

This is where you want to have Part 1 and Part 2 in mind, ’cause we’re going to build on them.

Blocks are derived from experiences we were unable to handle that became parts of our fields, our bodies, and our personalities.  Parts of the behavior of your field, body, and personality have been created to protect yourself from these blocks.

Protecting yourself won’t work forever.  What you resist persists.  Pushing against something just puts energy into it.  Eventually your weak spot will be triggered and present itself to you to be seen and healed.

When you become aware of what’s going on, every calamity becomes an opportunity, every pain becomes a chance to grow smarter and wiser, and every limitation becomes a strength.  The truth is…

 

Your Baggage = Your Secret Superpower

I kid you not.  Want to know what yours is and how to begin to unlock it?

The following dynamics color everything my clients come to me to address.  How and when these play out are complex and utterly unique to each person.

Here’s what people often need to do to heal, and the profound gifts they unlock:

Be real.

Do you feel like you or others around you always need to be perfect?  Your superpower is your enormous capacity to tap into reality and make things happen!  Sound lackluster?  You lead the world, and society is shaped by your every choice.  As you start to heal you’ll do it more consciously, with a powerful inner compass.  Find your feelings and put your natural passion and consistency in service of the real you.

Express yourself.

Do you need to reclaim your body, your time, your life as your own?  Your secret superpower is how much you have to give!  As you start to heal you’ll release the tension of holding it all in and let your bubbling creativity and caring shine in whatever way you choose.

Surrender.

This is a tough one, but do you ever find yourself lying or being manipulative in order to win?  Your secret superpower is your honesty, integrity and heroism.  It’s one of life’s oxymorons.  You are the champion of causes.   As you start to heal you’ll deflate puffed up parts of yourself, let go of all that control and come hang out with the rest of us.  We could use your leadership, your vision, and your great big, courageous heart.

Fill yourself up and give.

Do you hunger for love and affection?  Your secret superpower is your ability to connect with others and give.  It might seem like a little thing, but its enough and the world needs it.  As you start to heal you’ll stop grabbing for more and notice all that you are getting already.  Find your fulfillment sharing the things you love with others.

Love yourself and connect.

Is your surreal life out to get you?  Is the world an unsafe mess?  Your secret superpower is your humanness and insight.  As you start to heal you’ll release the hidden terror rage you’ve felt toward the world.  Life’s not all sunshine and fluffy pillows, but its not razor blades and Armageddon either.  As messy as it is, it can be an amazing journey.  Come thaw the ice inside you and joined in.

When we begin to heal suddenly everywhere we have trouble, get stuck, fail, and suffer also points right at where we are going to become most awesome, expert and insightful.

In conclusion, before something turns to illness or calamity, it usually starts poking its head up.   By the time things fall apart, something is really trying to get you to pay attention.  As soon as you notice, something miraculous begins to shift.  This is the heart of healing.

And the rabbit hole goes a long way down.

If you want to get into this further for yourself, contact me for a session.  I’m always honored to support you with the notes I play and the hands I lay.  Thank you for having me along on your journey!

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How Your Life Is Trying To Heal You, Part 2

Let’s continue with Part 2 of a 3-part series on the upside of our hidden and perhaps not-so-hidden wounds.  

In Part 1 of How Your Life is Trying to Heal You I told you essentially, baggage = blocked energy. These same blocks and baggage effect our bodies, thoughts and feelings, and even shape who we are.

 How Baggage Shapes The Bearer

Imagine a baseball glove, or an oven mitt.  Both are perfectly made to take the hit, or take the heat.  So are you.  You are the sum total of the journey to become who you are right this second.  Not one moment has been left out.  If everything’s been peachy then congratulations, you’re happy, well-adjusted and incredibly rare.

If, on the other hand, you’re like most people, you have a block here, some baggage there.  Nobody’s perfect, and there’s something perfect in that.  The day to day stuff tends to slough off after some exercise, a shower and time with good friends or family.

Its the more persistent stuff that we’re here to address in this message and in life.  The deeper, older stuff.  The longer you’ve carried a block, the less you notice.  Its a part of you.  In fact, you might not be you without it.

Let’s begin with five of the most common colors we carry in our palette of deep blocks:

First example: Think back a ways.  Were you taught to sit still and listen?  To line up and wait?  Sometimes these are valuable lessons that help us get along better with others.

Other times we may learn that what really matters is how we act on the surface, not what we truly feel or think.  In dangerous or abusive situations a lot more may depend on toeing the line.

We may learn we have to be perfect.  People who went through this are almost always “fine” when asked. These seemingly balanced and straight-backed people can carry out a task no matter how they feel about it, as long as its the right thing to do.

Really they don’t feel much about it, or anything, at all.  Essentially, they don’t know who they truly are and may be envious of or scornful toward others who do.  The good news is they are highly able to be successful in the world.

Second example: Pay attention to your body.  It is amazing, and more than anything else it’s yours.  You are responsible for taking care of it and anything it does.  Plus you can run, play, draw, sing, dance and enjoy the heck out of it.

But if our bodies and energies are not respected as our own, if we are dominated by those who are supposed to protect us, or shamed too much for what our bodies do, we learn a different lesson.

We may learn to be ashamed of a body and self that are not our own.  Its normal for folks who went through this to feel that anything that smells like a boundary – even their own self-control – feels bad.  Its a tense position to maintain.

They may overeat and gain unhealthy weight.  They may wait for a slight to burst out and reclaim the power they no longer remember they already have.  If this is you you’re not alone.  This is very common in the United States and Australia.

Third example: Ask yourself if you were ever “a little superhero” or “mommy’s perfect angel”?  Its normal for parents, teachers and others to say stuff like this, no big whoop.

The baggage only gets packed if you really can’t keep up with the expectations placed on you and fall hard.  In intense cases, people you count on may seduce you to get what they want, and abuse you if they don’t get it.

We may learn to lie to and manipulate a world we mistrust.  We’re going to puff up as big as we can to uphold unbearable expectations.  Deep down we feel essentially worthless, cuz we’re living a lie.  Each new lie makes this worse, and we learn to control others around us to protect ourselves.

Feeling supported is vital in our unstable state.  If you’re not with us, you’re against us.  Our friends are angels, our enemies are pure evil.  Power is key, winning is the most important thing, and we’re really good in a fight.  You are fortunate if we’re on your side, cuz if we’re not, you’re f’d.

Fourth example: Imagine a child who’s going hungry.  You can see their wide eyes, pleading for food.  Its all about feeling fulfilled.  It doesn’t take much to have enough.

But if for any reason there’s not enough of the food, affection, attention or love you need, you’ll pack your bags full of hunger and heartache.

We may learn that there is never enough for us, and we aren’t enough either.  When your belly or heart is left wanting too often you learn that it is you that is the inadequate, half-empty cup.

Better to fill yourself from the world around you.  Using sex to get attention is one classic ploy, or droning on and on and boring others.  But good feeling never last, cuz you’re more comfortable empty and longing anyway!  Full, what’s that?  But you sure might make a great entertainer.

Last example: Go back to the moment it all began.  If you were safe, held and loved at birth then you’re not carrying this last bag.  This block is for those of us who came in rough, or were met with enough hostility that…

We may learn that life is dangerous and the world hates us.  The only safe place to be now is gone.  These are the slender wisps who find a spiritual reality or daydream more compelling than flesh and bone.  Look in their eyes and this notoriously flaky and disengaged person isn’t quite looking back.

If this is you, fear and anxiety are too easy to come by, aren’t they.  Conflict may cause you to practically leave your body, if you haven’t had an out-of-body experience already.  But when you touch the world with your unique insights, lookout!

Are you painting with any of these colors?  In my experience we all have one or more.  Its heartbreaking to watch happen, and the cycles repeat every day.

Believe it or not, t here is a silver lining and its coming in Part 3: the miraculous nature of how our baggage is constantly resurfacing and showering us with chances to embrace it, be free of it, and be our most whole, healed, beautiful selves.  You might even say we’ve got secret superpowers.

Heal and Learn

If you want to go further and use energy healing to start unpacking your own baggage, contact me for a healing session and let’s begin!

Your health isn’t just about your body and organs.  Everything happens in your field.  The issues above are intertwined with the issues people come to me to address.  I’ll let you know more in upcoming articles or receive them by email by signing up for The Heal Schpeal.

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How Your Life Is Trying To Heal You, Part 1

We’re all human and we all carry baggage.  Try as we might, there’s only so perfect we can get!

I know, I know, its not your fault.  You were born this way.  You have to be true to yourself.

Your troubles came out of nowhere.  No matter how much time goes by, you still get a feeling in your body when you drive by where the incident happened.

And maybe you agree with my friend Joseph Estevez, who told me, “After 30 you can’t blame your parents.”

You’re all right.  And you’re alright.

I want to help you out with some “21st Century Human Skills”.  Today begins Part 1 of a 3-part series on our hidden and perhaps not-so-hidden wounds.  They’re real, they’re visible in your energy field, and they matter.

Right now we’re going to lay the foundation with why and how we ‘bury our stuff’ and ‘pack our baggage’.  Eventually we’ll get to the miraculous nature of how our baggage is constantly resurfacing and showering us with healing opportunities!

How and Why

We Bury Our Baggage

Ideally, when we suffer, we take the time to feel it, do what we can to change our situation, and cry away the rest or just let it go.  But when we can’t – we’re too busy, the pain is too much or we’re too young or don’t have the support we need to make it through – we have to stuff it.  Be macho.  Be tough.  Set it aside.  Block it.

This can be good when your kids really need you.  This is good if you’re in danger and just have to get to safety before you can let go.  This is good if you’re too young and the pain is so much that it might tear you apart.

This is bad if you never get back to it.  If it stays stuck.  If you forget.  If you get used to the pain.  If you come to like the pain.  If you prefer its comfort to the discomfort of being free of it.  These things happen.

Baggage = Blocks

When we block our feelings it shows up in our energy field.  This is part of why I have a job.  I’m sensitive and I pick up on unspoken stuff.  So do most sensitive people.  I also have the capacity and skills to address it more directly in a healing session.  If you can call intuitively tapping in to someone’s field from hundreds – or even thousands – of miles away ‘direct’!

You are incredibly complex, and the further down the rabbit hole I go the harder it is to explain.  Different wounds effect different aspects of ourselves differently. Here’s the skinny:

When we block our physical energies we may feel weak in our bones, muscles, tendons and tissues.  Our body may get stiff and our muscles hard.

When we block our feelings it looks to my mind’s eye like a dull fog.  Too much of this and we feel depressed.  We are literally depressing our feelings so they can’t flow naturally from one to the next.  Or we may feel nothing.  People who drink a lot often have this look to me.  When we obsess over things it is our minds working hard to block our feelings.  We may become very educated and successful before this strategy begins to fail us.

When we block our thoughts we cannot think clearly, may feel confused, or have difficulty understanding, learning, or tapping into our intuition.  Our mind may cycle through the same thoughts over and over, trying to deal with daily life in a way that may or may not be working well for us.

When we block our hearts it forms a sticky tar of energy.  So does smoking a lot of pot.  If we block the inevitable pain that is a part of all relationships, we block our love.  We get hard.  We care less.  We may think we don’t care at all.  Beware people who are too cool, because they aren’t warm.

When we block our connection to truth, insight, inspiration, joy, and the divine, we cannot find our place in the world.  Meaning, happiness, abiding satisfaction and peace are hard to come by.

Everyone has an excellent reason for blocking what they block.  If you wore their shoes you might have done the exact same thing.

By the time people come to me for the first time, especially if they’ve never had energy work before, whatever they’ve been doing isn’t working.  Sometimes its something simple, and often its something complex.  We peel it back, layer by layer, until we find the root.  With this process comes understanding.  With this process comes clarity.  And compassion, for yourself and others.  And healing.

And the whole world becomes a better place, all because you were blocked.

All of this begs some background into the energy work I do, but I’m going to save it for down the line.  I’ve got to have something to write about after I finish this series in March!  Next month’s topic: The simple, beautiful and sometimes heartbreaking ways our blocks and baggage shape who we are.

Final Thoughts

Healing your world,

your country, your community,

and your family begins

with healing yourself.

One thing all of my clients have in common is that in ways big and small you’re all trying to make the world a better place.  Healing and music are part of how I do that.  I’m always honored to support you with the notes I play and the hands I lay.  Thank you for having me along on your journey!

In Health and Healing,

Lincoln Crockett

The Truth about the Elephant – What is Energy Healing?

My teacher, Deborah Kerbow, once looked at our class and said something to the effect of, “I won’t lie, I’m a little jealous of you guys.  When I started doing healing work in the 70’s I had to be careful who I told.  Some people were cruel.  But you guys can basically tell anybody!  Even if they don’t get it at least they won’t spit on you!”
 
Thankfully, she’s right.  We live in a unique time when spiritual teacher Eckhart Tolle did a weeklong series of interviews on Oprah and tough talking medical intuitive Carolyn Myss has had multiple bestselling books. As an energy worker the Google ad bar alongside my inbox is a solid list of people advertising different forms of energy work.  But are they really all that different?  And what are they all doing?  What is energy healing?
 
I’m not supposed to say this, but the truth is I don’t do anything in energy work that you don’t do in your daily life.  You hug someone you love (probably not enough) and are transformed by your embrace, you connect with people over great distances via phone and email, you have access to vast amounts of information through the internet and you experience the ‘vibe’ of places you go.  At times you may  know who’s calling on the phone before you pick it up, you’ve had intuitive and coincidental experiences you can’t explain, you’ve had good days where everything seems to line up right, you know how someone’s feeling when they walk in the house, you’ve prayed or ‘sent’ well-wishes to someone in need and more.  These and dozens of other examples are energetic connections at work every day.  They’re normal enough that most people know what I’m talking about, yet odd enough that we recognize something special is at work.
 
I’ve made it my life’s work to notice and think about these things.  When I hear about doctors having insightful dreams about patients something in me perks up.  When I was studying psychology in college I saw how strong the placebo effect was compared to psychoactive medications and realized there’s a lot more going on here than meets the eye.  When I hear stories of cancer that spontaneously disappears before surgery I take notes.  Two of my teachers were involved in exactly this kind of incident. 

More than a decade ago I was getting ready to enroll at Wakepoint School for Energy Healing in Colorado.  I had already had a life changing experience at the hands of a healer, Talia and was pouring over Barbara Brennan’s groundbreaking work, Hands of Light.  My father, ever the open-minded skeptic, took me to a heavy-hitting policy conference at The American Academy for the Advancement of Science in Washington, DC.  Hoping, I think, to talk some sense into me we attended a panel discussion on Alternative and Complementary medicines.  Each panelist in turn had a chance to present their perspective and by the end all of them, had basically agreed: there is a raft of documented cases of healings, cures and spontaneous remissions that are quite simply impossible according to the Western medical worldview.  ‘Alternative’ practices have something that western medicine is missing and should be brought to the fore and studied.  The only naysayer respectfully suggested we not do anything too rash.  My father summed it with the comment, “Well, they thought Galileo was crazy.”
 
Energy healing at its simplest is akin to passive meditation.  This is very much the state of mind I go into during an energy session.  In a similar way, those of you familiar with Thai massage know it is sometimes compared to passive yoga.  The therapist moves around the recipient and physically stretches their body to release their stored tensions.  At energy work’s most basic level I connect to the energy in your field and allow you to get a recharge through me.  Most clients experience this as their mind and body relaxing.  They begin to notice more of their inner world and their thoughts have a chance to process themselves more fluidly. 

Visually sensitive people see colors, physically sensitive people feel warm or electric sensations, others may hear music and some will have ‘a ha’ moments or flashes of insight.  If this is how your session is going I’ll work my way through a series of charge points on your body and you’ll leave feeling relaxed, energized, recentered and grounded, or perhaps lighter on your feet and more peaceful.  Each session is very individual, but you will get exactly what YOU need.
 
Many clients have specific issues they’re dealing with and know from experience that energy work is an effective way to address them.  Others aren’t having much luck with other treatments and are willing to try something new.  In this case our work goes deeper.  Places that need extra attention show up as unusual heat or cold under my hands, discomfort in your body, troubled thoughts or painful emotions rising almost out of nowhere.  I follow my intuition and we’ll both follow your internal process.  We’ll take extra time and directly focus energy at these places and help them release.  Releases are often accompanied by sighs, deep exhales, or tears. 

If you’ve been through something traumatic at any point in your life and you’ve been storing unprocessed pain there may be anger, fear or rage that still needs to be felt and we’ll give you the time to feel it.  It’s miraculous what you may be carrying around.  There are many different healing styles out there but few are trained to work with energies in this way.  I feel lucky to be able to offer you this chance through energy work.
 
Often we don’t realize that difficulties in our sleep, health, work, finances or relationships today stem directly from past experiences.  This just isn’t how we’re programmed to think, but this is exactly how we are.  If the hidden trauma is significant you will eventually experience a more significant emotional or nervous breakdown, an acute illness or even an accident or injury.  This is all to give you another opportunity to process the pain.  Many of my clients are seeking relief from emotional and physical abuse from family members, rape and sexual abuse, old or recent injuries and surgeries, ongoing or acute illnesses, unfinished business in finished relationships and even traumatic birth experiences.  Like seeing a counselor it can be wonderful to just get things out in the open in a session, but unlike a counselor, energy work can help to clear damage and restore your energies to health.  This sometimes takes multiple sessions over a period of time.  Other times I recommend that clients continue to see a therapist or get regular bodywork to help the process. 
 
I get more questions about distance (or remote) energy healing than anything else I do.  Believe me, early on it took me a couple of sessions to really feel confident, but I have no doubts anymore.  I use your full name, the sound of your voice (not always necessary) and a picture of you to get connected, the same as when you talk to a friend or loved one on the phone.  Then it’s all about the energy.  I look at it like this: only the physical body is in 3-dimensions, subject to the limitations of distance and time.  Physicists point out that on the subatomic level even matter is continually popping in and out of existence.  Have you seen the movie “What the *Bleep* Do We Know?”  It was made right here in Portland and it has some great explanations.  Healing energy – much of the energy in our daily experiences, in fact – comes from outside our little 3-dimensional bubble.  Near or far, there you are.
 
There’s another thing I’m not supposed to say in an article where I should be blowing my own horn: All health and healing professions are working on the same elephant.  It’s from an old story I run into a lot, it goes something like this:  five blind monks are gathered around an elephant.  Each touches the enormous beast with his hands and arrives at a different conclusion.  “It’s like a snake,” proclaims the one at its trunk.  “No, it’s like a tree trunk,” observes the one at its leg.  “Nonsense, it’s like a sheet of paper,” argues the one by an ear.  “Amazing, it’s like a wall!”  shouts the one at the elephant’s side.  “You’re all wrong,” concludes the monk at the animal’s rear, “an elephant is like a rope.”  Human health is exactly the same thing.  All roads lead to Rome and everyone must follow their own path.
 
I grew up in a house saturated with theoretical physics, abstract mathematics, music and therapeutic psychology, so my career as a musician and an energy worker was almost unavoidable.  Believe me, I tried!  In some ways my full-time music career, though successful, was an attempt to make use of my skills and sensitivities in a more ‘normal’ way.  Meanwhile my appetite for understanding persisted.  Over the past twenty years I have studied or received more than two dozen different treatment and therapeutic styles that improve people’s health including eastern and western medicines, homeopathy, naturopathy, physical therapy, chiropractic, art therapy, talk therapy, Reiki and much more.  Each new experience solidifies my conviction that we are all walking around the same elephant.
 
So where does energy work fit in to all this?  Energy healing is at the extreme fringe, and rightfully so.  By my own admission, what I have experienced in my training and what happens with clients on a daily basis borders on unbelievable.  If there’s one thing I know it’s this: energy work can change your energy, change your health and change your life.
 
Ultimately your healing is in your hands.  Your life is guiding you through circumstances and choices to learn, heal, give, receive and grow.  Every setback is an opportunity, every wound is a gift.  Things are working in your favor just like reading these words at exactly this time.  I believe it because I know it’s true. 
 
Resources
Hands of Light by Barbara Brennan
Anatomy of the Spirit by Carolyn Myss
The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle
Pronoia by Rob Brezsny