How Your Life Is Trying To Heal You, Part 2

Let’s continue with Part 2 of a 3-part series on the upside of our hidden and perhaps not-so-hidden wounds.  

In Part 1 of How Your Life is Trying to Heal You I told you essentially, baggage = blocked energy. These same blocks and baggage effect our bodies, thoughts and feelings, and even shape who we are.

 How Baggage Shapes The Bearer

Imagine a baseball glove, or an oven mitt.  Both are perfectly made to take the hit, or take the heat.  So are you.  You are the sum total of the journey to become who you are right this second.  Not one moment has been left out.  If everything’s been peachy then congratulations, you’re happy, well-adjusted and incredibly rare.

If, on the other hand, you’re like most people, you have a block here, some baggage there.  Nobody’s perfect, and there’s something perfect in that.  The day to day stuff tends to slough off after some exercise, a shower and time with good friends or family.

Its the more persistent stuff that we’re here to address in this message and in life.  The deeper, older stuff.  The longer you’ve carried a block, the less you notice.  Its a part of you.  In fact, you might not be you without it.

Let’s begin with five of the most common colors we carry in our palette of deep blocks:

First example: Think back a ways.  Were you taught to sit still and listen?  To line up and wait?  Sometimes these are valuable lessons that help us get along better with others.

Other times we may learn that what really matters is how we act on the surface, not what we truly feel or think.  In dangerous or abusive situations a lot more may depend on toeing the line.

We may learn we have to be perfect.  People who went through this are almost always “fine” when asked. These seemingly balanced and straight-backed people can carry out a task no matter how they feel about it, as long as its the right thing to do.

Really they don’t feel much about it, or anything, at all.  Essentially, they don’t know who they truly are and may be envious of or scornful toward others who do.  The good news is they are highly able to be successful in the world.

Second example: Pay attention to your body.  It is amazing, and more than anything else it’s yours.  You are responsible for taking care of it and anything it does.  Plus you can run, play, draw, sing, dance and enjoy the heck out of it.

But if our bodies and energies are not respected as our own, if we are dominated by those who are supposed to protect us, or shamed too much for what our bodies do, we learn a different lesson.

We may learn to be ashamed of a body and self that are not our own.  Its normal for folks who went through this to feel that anything that smells like a boundary – even their own self-control – feels bad.  Its a tense position to maintain.

They may overeat and gain unhealthy weight.  They may wait for a slight to burst out and reclaim the power they no longer remember they already have.  If this is you you’re not alone.  This is very common in the United States and Australia.

Third example: Ask yourself if you were ever “a little superhero” or “mommy’s perfect angel”?  Its normal for parents, teachers and others to say stuff like this, no big whoop.

The baggage only gets packed if you really can’t keep up with the expectations placed on you and fall hard.  In intense cases, people you count on may seduce you to get what they want, and abuse you if they don’t get it.

We may learn to lie to and manipulate a world we mistrust.  We’re going to puff up as big as we can to uphold unbearable expectations.  Deep down we feel essentially worthless, cuz we’re living a lie.  Each new lie makes this worse, and we learn to control others around us to protect ourselves.

Feeling supported is vital in our unstable state.  If you’re not with us, you’re against us.  Our friends are angels, our enemies are pure evil.  Power is key, winning is the most important thing, and we’re really good in a fight.  You are fortunate if we’re on your side, cuz if we’re not, you’re f’d.

Fourth example: Imagine a child who’s going hungry.  You can see their wide eyes, pleading for food.  Its all about feeling fulfilled.  It doesn’t take much to have enough.

But if for any reason there’s not enough of the food, affection, attention or love you need, you’ll pack your bags full of hunger and heartache.

We may learn that there is never enough for us, and we aren’t enough either.  When your belly or heart is left wanting too often you learn that it is you that is the inadequate, half-empty cup.

Better to fill yourself from the world around you.  Using sex to get attention is one classic ploy, or droning on and on and boring others.  But good feeling never last, cuz you’re more comfortable empty and longing anyway!  Full, what’s that?  But you sure might make a great entertainer.

Last example: Go back to the moment it all began.  If you were safe, held and loved at birth then you’re not carrying this last bag.  This block is for those of us who came in rough, or were met with enough hostility that…

We may learn that life is dangerous and the world hates us.  The only safe place to be now is gone.  These are the slender wisps who find a spiritual reality or daydream more compelling than flesh and bone.  Look in their eyes and this notoriously flaky and disengaged person isn’t quite looking back.

If this is you, fear and anxiety are too easy to come by, aren’t they.  Conflict may cause you to practically leave your body, if you haven’t had an out-of-body experience already.  But when you touch the world with your unique insights, lookout!

Are you painting with any of these colors?  In my experience we all have one or more.  Its heartbreaking to watch happen, and the cycles repeat every day.

Believe it or not, t here is a silver lining and its coming in Part 3: the miraculous nature of how our baggage is constantly resurfacing and showering us with chances to embrace it, be free of it, and be our most whole, healed, beautiful selves.  You might even say we’ve got secret superpowers.

Heal and Learn

If you want to go further and use energy healing to start unpacking your own baggage, contact me for a healing session and let’s begin!

Your health isn’t just about your body and organs.  Everything happens in your field.  The issues above are intertwined with the issues people come to me to address.  I’ll let you know more in upcoming articles or receive them by email by signing up for The Heal Schpeal.

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